7 Leadership Lessons Men Can Learn from Women

Although there is a great deal of public interest in ensuring more women become leaders, thereby reversing their under-representation in the ranks of power, too many suggested solutions are founded on the misconception that women ought to emulate men. But this logic fails to account for the relatively dismal performance of most leaders — who are overwhelmingly male. As we have argued before, the real problem is not a lack of competent females; it is too few obstacles for incompetent males, which explains the surplus of overconfident, narcissistic, and unethical people in charge.

As a consequence, gender differences in leadership effectiveness (what it takes to perform well) are out of sync with gender differences in leadership emergence (what it takes to make it to the top). Indeed, research shows that the prevalence of male senior leaders is not a product of superior leadership talent in men. Rather, large quantitative studies, including meta-analyses, indicate that gender differences in leadership talent are either nonexistent, or they actually favor women.

With this in mind, it would be more logical to flip the suggested remedy: instead of encouraging women to act like male leaders (many of whom are incompetent), we should be asking men in power to adopt some of the more effective leadership behaviors more commonly found in women. This would create a pool of better role models who could pave the way for both competent men and women to advance.

Here are some critical leadership lessons that most men can learn from the average woman:

  1. Don’t lean in when you’ve got nothing to lean in about. 
  2. Know your own limitations. 
  3. Motivate through transformation. 
  4. Put your people ahead of yourself.
  5. Focus on elevating others. 
  6. Don’t command; empathize. 
  7. Don’t say you’re “humbled.” Be humble. 

Click here to read the full article by Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic and Cindy Gallop for Harvard Business Review.

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